Showing posts with label all you need is love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label all you need is love. Show all posts
9.09.2011
6.29.2011
relevant.
i love the daily love. it speaks to me. as if the writers have a direct tap to my internal journal (ha! "internal journal". i'm a poet and didn't no it.) and today's post was no different. it was like a gong banging on my computer screen... to the tune of a negative co-worker. and i figure, what's relevant for me might just be relevant for someone else too. so here it is:
Those that challenge you the most are also your greatest teachers. Thank them, for they are the ones that call you to live your highest potential.
They are the opportunity for you to face yourself, your fears and those parts of you that you don’t like, for they will expose it.
They are the opportunity to see how you stop loving and to love bigger.
They invite you to live the books, your prayers and your spirituality.
Often when we are faced with a challenging individual, we get angry. We might defend our point, want to fight, be righteous, judge or collapse in fear.
Most of all those that challenge us, give us the opportunity to love.
But we must first shift our perception, how we view the situation and that person.
Here are some steps:
1 -Shift: See that person/situation as a gift. They are the opportunity for you to grow and love more.
2 – Let go: Give up being right and commit to being FREE. Nothing/No one is worth your happiness or peace. Life is way too short.
3 – Realize: They are reflecting something for you to see, a part of yourself that you need to own, an old wound that you get to heal and let go.
4 – Responsibility: Take the focus off of them, take responsibility and learn your lesson. Embrace it. Graduate from the experience and move on.
5 - Release: Accept the person exactly as they are. Perhaps that might mean you will need to let them go from your life or shift the dynamics of your relationship. Stop fighting what they are.
6 – Communicate: Either communicate with them directly if appropriate or simply bless them and let them go within your own heart. Since everything is energy and we are all interconnected, the good vibes that you send that person will affect them.
7 – Appreciate: Acknowledge your growth and learning. Focus on what you received, and the person you became as a result, rather than what was taken.
Remember: When someone attacks you, they are in a lot of pain. And even though it is directed at you, it most often isn’t about you. It isn’t personal, even though it seems that way and they might even feel that way.
You can choose to fight fire with fire, but this only creates more devastation. When someone attacks you, they want to engage you in a fight. If you attack back, you are now caught up in a vicious cycle.
Even if you win the fight… no one really wins. Let go. Focus on freedom and resolution.
It takes two people to fight. When you don’t engage the attack energy, soon your adversary will be left fighting with her/himself. Then the energy will dissipate.
If you drop to the level of your “attacker”, you perpetuate the cycle of endless negativity. Your “attacker” will try to use your energy to keep a war going. But if you don’t engage, then there is no resistance. They will have no fuel to keep fighting you with.
If someone gives you a gift, but you decline to accept it, to whom does the gift belong? It still belongs to the other person!
Rise above it. Disengage. Step to the side. Redirect. Live your freedom.
-- Kute Blackson
Preach on, Daily Love!
Those that challenge you the most are also your greatest teachers. Thank them, for they are the ones that call you to live your highest potential.
They are the opportunity for you to face yourself, your fears and those parts of you that you don’t like, for they will expose it.
They are the opportunity to see how you stop loving and to love bigger.
They invite you to live the books, your prayers and your spirituality.
Often when we are faced with a challenging individual, we get angry. We might defend our point, want to fight, be righteous, judge or collapse in fear.
Most of all those that challenge us, give us the opportunity to love.
But we must first shift our perception, how we view the situation and that person.
Here are some steps:
1 -Shift: See that person/situation as a gift. They are the opportunity for you to grow and love more.
2 – Let go: Give up being right and commit to being FREE. Nothing/No one is worth your happiness or peace. Life is way too short.
3 – Realize: They are reflecting something for you to see, a part of yourself that you need to own, an old wound that you get to heal and let go.
4 – Responsibility: Take the focus off of them, take responsibility and learn your lesson. Embrace it. Graduate from the experience and move on.
5 - Release: Accept the person exactly as they are. Perhaps that might mean you will need to let them go from your life or shift the dynamics of your relationship. Stop fighting what they are.
6 – Communicate: Either communicate with them directly if appropriate or simply bless them and let them go within your own heart. Since everything is energy and we are all interconnected, the good vibes that you send that person will affect them.
7 – Appreciate: Acknowledge your growth and learning. Focus on what you received, and the person you became as a result, rather than what was taken.
Remember: When someone attacks you, they are in a lot of pain. And even though it is directed at you, it most often isn’t about you. It isn’t personal, even though it seems that way and they might even feel that way.
You can choose to fight fire with fire, but this only creates more devastation. When someone attacks you, they want to engage you in a fight. If you attack back, you are now caught up in a vicious cycle.
Even if you win the fight… no one really wins. Let go. Focus on freedom and resolution.
It takes two people to fight. When you don’t engage the attack energy, soon your adversary will be left fighting with her/himself. Then the energy will dissipate.
If you drop to the level of your “attacker”, you perpetuate the cycle of endless negativity. Your “attacker” will try to use your energy to keep a war going. But if you don’t engage, then there is no resistance. They will have no fuel to keep fighting you with.
If someone gives you a gift, but you decline to accept it, to whom does the gift belong? It still belongs to the other person!
Rise above it. Disengage. Step to the side. Redirect. Live your freedom.
-- Kute Blackson
Preach on, Daily Love!
5.09.2011
of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother. - lin yutang
yesterday i....
- scored some serious snuggle time with my pillow and tucker while hubby took care of sully. sleeping in 'til 9am... delightful
- woke to the smell of bacon (and a feast of other foods)
- got big morning hugs from my favorite little guy in the whole world
- also got 4 sweet cards and 2 thoughtful texts
- soaked up glorious sunshine and cool breezes all day
- was visited by my stepson
- did glitter crafts with the boys on the back porch after breakfast
- savored 2 solo hours at home with my coffee
- went flower shopping
- did a little landscaping
- strolled to the neighborhood pond with hubby, sully, and the fishing pole at dusk
- enjoyed lots of laughing
- even more "i love you's"
- and, for dinner, pigged out on my favorite burger in the world: five guys!
life is good.
happy mother's day to all!
2.14.2011
love, love, and more LOVE
happy valentine's day.
i'm not sure about all you others out there in the world but here in charleston it could not be a more beautiful day to celebrate the day marked for love.
i know there are many naysayers in the universe who call this holiday a cliche, only born to fill the pockets of every greeting card and candy industry tycoon stretching the globe. but i say...
tish.tosh!
i am glad that, in a world that becomes more cynical with each passing day, we still have these capsules of time that dissolve an otherwise mundane day into something a little more beautiful. special. fun. we all need a little more "fun" in our lives.
and you can't play the "i'm single and depressed" card with me because i've been that single and depressed girl on valentine's day - wishing i had a man and wallowing in my own self pity. to avoid feeling un-sexy on the sexiest of holidays, my friends and i would protest. "anti-valentine's, valentine's day". we made anti-valentine's cd mixes. put on our best pushups. went out. toasted drink after drink to being single and fabulous. and in an attempt to not celebrate, we ended up celebrating anyway. those scattered, single, valentine's will go down as some of the greatest nights of my life.
so to all you wet blankets out there (yes, i said it) i say: get out of your own head, go buy a box of lindt truffles, sit on the couch with your love tonight, and indulge. and if you don't have a love.... your friend... your dog... heck, by yourself (sometimes that's my favorite way to enjoy a good box of chocolate). or go out with your drinking buddies. drink one too many and get silly. pop a bottle of champagne for the hell of it and let the bubbles do their job. throw darts at a picture of cupid with another angry friend.
something. anything!
use this day to remind everyone you care about - friend, girlfriend, mom, dad, sister, brother, cousin, cousin's friend martha, or whomever - that you care about them.
and enjoy it for what it is, for tomorrow it will be gone. c'est la vie!
----
"if you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you"
- sister mary tricky
i'm not sure about all you others out there in the world but here in charleston it could not be a more beautiful day to celebrate the day marked for love.
i know there are many naysayers in the universe who call this holiday a cliche, only born to fill the pockets of every greeting card and candy industry tycoon stretching the globe. but i say...
tish.tosh!
i am glad that, in a world that becomes more cynical with each passing day, we still have these capsules of time that dissolve an otherwise mundane day into something a little more beautiful. special. fun. we all need a little more "fun" in our lives.
and you can't play the "i'm single and depressed" card with me because i've been that single and depressed girl on valentine's day - wishing i had a man and wallowing in my own self pity. to avoid feeling un-sexy on the sexiest of holidays, my friends and i would protest. "anti-valentine's, valentine's day". we made anti-valentine's cd mixes. put on our best pushups. went out. toasted drink after drink to being single and fabulous. and in an attempt to not celebrate, we ended up celebrating anyway. those scattered, single, valentine's will go down as some of the greatest nights of my life.
so to all you wet blankets out there (yes, i said it) i say: get out of your own head, go buy a box of lindt truffles, sit on the couch with your love tonight, and indulge. and if you don't have a love.... your friend... your dog... heck, by yourself (sometimes that's my favorite way to enjoy a good box of chocolate). or go out with your drinking buddies. drink one too many and get silly. pop a bottle of champagne for the hell of it and let the bubbles do their job. throw darts at a picture of cupid with another angry friend.
something. anything!
use this day to remind everyone you care about - friend, girlfriend, mom, dad, sister, brother, cousin, cousin's friend martha, or whomever - that you care about them.
and enjoy it for what it is, for tomorrow it will be gone. c'est la vie!
----
"if you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you"
- sister mary tricky
6.14.2010
wifey
that's right! on the perfect day of june 5th, i choked back (happy) tears as my dad escorted me down an aisle of fresh grass to the oh-so-handsome groom standing at the other end. there, overlooking breathtaking hillsides of pasture in the heat of a southern afternoon, we said "i do" and shared a night of dining and dancing with our friends and family in a beautifully restored 1940's barn.
i'll say it again - perfect!
it's incredible to me how one day, one afternoon even, gave me so much more than just a husband that i adore. it added a new meaning to my life. a security i've never completely known. it offered me the clarity of appreciating the friends and family who truly, deeeeeply love us - those who will be there to celebrate in life's joyous moments and on whom we can lean in the harder ones. beyond invaluable.
i am blessed. we are blessed.
i'll say it again - perfect!
it's incredible to me how one day, one afternoon even, gave me so much more than just a husband that i adore. it added a new meaning to my life. a security i've never completely known. it offered me the clarity of appreciating the friends and family who truly, deeeeeply love us - those who will be there to celebrate in life's joyous moments and on whom we can lean in the harder ones. beyond invaluable.
i am blessed. we are blessed.
5.16.2008
4.28.2008
XOXO
HE SAID THE "L" WORD!!!... on the flybridge of a 4 million dollar yacht... with the Friday night Charleston fireworks ablaze in the background... Ace told me that I was the most perfect person he had ever met (boy is he fooled!) and that he LOVES every tiny piece of me.
Soulshine. Lemme tell ya. It was one of the MOST PERFECT moments I have yet to experience in my 26 years of roaming this earth.
With fireworks exploding all over my heart, I said "I love you, too"! Sigh
LOOK OUT WORLD - THIS LADY'S IN LOVE!
"Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her'.” — Anonymous
Soulshine. Lemme tell ya. It was one of the MOST PERFECT moments I have yet to experience in my 26 years of roaming this earth.
With fireworks exploding all over my heart, I said "I love you, too"! Sigh
LOOK OUT WORLD - THIS LADY'S IN LOVE!
"Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her'.” — Anonymous
4.02.2008
Tissue Please
5:30, yesterday afternoon: The moment I've been anticipating ALL day. WORKS OVER and I can finally take my runny nose, sore throat, non-functioning brain HOME. To the couch I go!
9:30, last night: Me! Drowning in a sea of tissues and vicks vapor rub! I extinguish the last ounce of energy in my body to prepare a bowl of Campbell's Homestyle Chicken Noodle Soup (the cure all) and bury my face into the coolness of my blue suede pillow.
10 o'clock: A slight tap on the door, ever so faint. Who could that be?
It was the new squeeze, who, for Soulshine's sake I will now refer to as Ace - my Ace of Spades (I smile). He was there to rescue me from my sneezing, coughing, and inability to breath, and like a scene from a Harlequin romance novel, my hair caught the wind as I reached to embrace.
SNEEZE! (all over his blue cotton shirt sleeve)
He didn't care. He kissed me.
SNEEZE! (into his left ear drum, which I'm sure wasn't the most pleasant moment of his life)
He told me I looked beautiful - the liar! My nose painted a color red that Granny Smith only wishes for her apples, hair has somehow formed a bird's nest in the back in which I'm certain that something has taken residence, no makeup, no shower, chloraseptic breath, and holey Pink Floyd t-shirt paired with the most hideous sweat pants that somehow make my sore throat feel slightly better as I slip each leg in. BEAUTIFUL - HA!
At any rate, he is there to take care of me. What more could I ask for?!
Sighs & Sneezes,
Love Struck
9:30, last night: Me! Drowning in a sea of tissues and vicks vapor rub! I extinguish the last ounce of energy in my body to prepare a bowl of Campbell's Homestyle Chicken Noodle Soup (the cure all) and bury my face into the coolness of my blue suede pillow.
10 o'clock: A slight tap on the door, ever so faint. Who could that be?
It was the new squeeze, who, for Soulshine's sake I will now refer to as Ace - my Ace of Spades (I smile). He was there to rescue me from my sneezing, coughing, and inability to breath, and like a scene from a Harlequin romance novel, my hair caught the wind as I reached to embrace.
SNEEZE! (all over his blue cotton shirt sleeve)
He didn't care. He kissed me.
SNEEZE! (into his left ear drum, which I'm sure wasn't the most pleasant moment of his life)
He told me I looked beautiful - the liar! My nose painted a color red that Granny Smith only wishes for her apples, hair has somehow formed a bird's nest in the back in which I'm certain that something has taken residence, no makeup, no shower, chloraseptic breath, and holey Pink Floyd t-shirt paired with the most hideous sweat pants that somehow make my sore throat feel slightly better as I slip each leg in. BEAUTIFUL - HA!
At any rate, he is there to take care of me. What more could I ask for?!
Sighs & Sneezes,
Love Struck
3.18.2008
It's found in the laughter of two newlyweds taking the first step into their new home, echoed in the tune of an Al Green song, drenched in the sloppy licks of a puppy who has been awaiting his master's return, nestled in the hum of a mother's lullaby, and forever engraved in the touch of two slightly wrinkled hands after 50 years of marriage.
Many debate that it will conquer all and The Beatles have sold-out venues proclaiming that it is 'all you need'. It was reflected in hundreds of Shakespeare’s sonnets, inspired an entire artistic movement in the late 1700’s, and retrieves close to 2 BILLION results when typed into the search engine Google.
It's a force that constantly surrounds our existence - the epitome of all emotions & feelings one can hope to achieve - and if you are one of the few lucky enough to be touched by it's magic, you understand the magnitude of what it can bring into a life. It is universally recognized and very seldom forgotten...
And for the first time in a long time, I think I'm falling into it!
Many debate that it will conquer all and The Beatles have sold-out venues proclaiming that it is 'all you need'. It was reflected in hundreds of Shakespeare’s sonnets, inspired an entire artistic movement in the late 1700’s, and retrieves close to 2 BILLION results when typed into the search engine Google.
It's a force that constantly surrounds our existence - the epitome of all emotions & feelings one can hope to achieve - and if you are one of the few lucky enough to be touched by it's magic, you understand the magnitude of what it can bring into a life. It is universally recognized and very seldom forgotten...
And for the first time in a long time, I think I'm falling into it!
2.27.2008
ONE BRICK AT A TIME
So I'm doing laundry on Sunday afternoon - my least favorite way to spend an 80 degree, perfectly golden, day off - and realize that I'm a quarter short for the dryer. I dash to the car, scrounge a quarter from the console, and make my way back to convert wet clothes into dry. I round the corner and what to my wandering eyes should appear.... my new fella’ has already done the deed for me, DRYER SHEET AND ALL. Have I lived my entire life shielded from these gentlemen who do indeed roam the face of this earth? I mean, ladies, let's be real... in the (let's say) 4 serious relationships you've had since venturing into the world of dating, how many of those men (and I use that term loosely) actually went out of their way to do the dishes, took the time to doctor you & your runny nose, or just gave you a simple "you're beautiful" everyday?!
Now I know that assisting with my laundry doesn't tear down the wall of defense we have built to shield us from a behavior that - for years, ah' hell, centuries - the opposite sex has strategically led us to believe is normal. However, this one simple act dismantled the first brick in what I hope to be a revolution against all of my unfavorable stereotypes.
I found a quote by Anais Nin in which she said, "Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds. It dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings." Well spoken!
Had I only known that these foot-massaging, dinner cooking, handsome gentlemen were out there when I was 15, I could have bypassed all of the other morons.
One small step for man, One giant leap for my faith in man!
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